Crushes make us feel good. They distract us, give us something to hope for, and occasionally make us smile. When we have one on someone who’s unavailable, it gives the impression that we’re taking a stab at moving on. “Hey guys, look at me! Feelin’ feelings again!” But placing ourselves in situations where we don’t have a fighting chance–situations where our pursuits might actually be punished–isn’t fooling anyone, except maybe ourselves.
It’s possible we choose people we can’t have not because we want a challenge, not because we actually believe that we belong with them, but because we can keep them at arm’s length. There’s something that keeps them from getting too close, and that’s what we want, and sometimes, what we need. In this regard, the ones who claim they want a challenge actually become the challenge. We understand love like adults and face it with the preparedness of a child.
Perhaps we chase people in hopes that we’ll never catch up. But maybe we chase them because we know why they’re running."
— Why We Want People Who Are Unavailable - Thought Catalog